The bit that's missing in 'kill your darlings' (I've always thought of it as 'murder your darlings,' but I've no idea if I'm right) is that it's not about getting rid of the best bits.
As I see it, when you're revising you come across three kinds of things: perfectly good stuff you leave in, stuff that you can see doesn't work and you cut, and third, the things that you can see don't work, but you don't want to cut because: they took ages to write; or have some personal significance for you; or cost a lot in time or money or energy to research; or cost you emotionally; or seem to be what your best friend/writing teacher/editor/reviewer/husband said they wanted. You don't just cut them without a second thought, even though half of you knows they're not right for the book because you don't want to get rid of them for all
those reasons. Those are your darlings - the things you cling to that you know you shouldn't. If they were the right words in the right place you wouldn't be agonising, you'd leave them be and move on.
But it's a very macho take on the process (I always blame that kind of he-man talking-about-writing on Hemingway, most unfairly. Can't remember who it really is), as Rosy's take on 'are the rules of writing gendered' suggests. You could just as well describe it as 'put your darlings away for another time'
because they're necessarily wrong
tout court, they're just not right for
here.
Hm, thanks, catcrag, I was wondering what to blog about today!...
Emma