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Commenting on my piece The Truth, Len (oldfriend), touches on the topic of the needs of mankind to hope for an afterlife.
The piece, which is part of a much longer text deals with despair, depression and suicide. Len's comment got me thinking about how the suicidal mind deals with issues of the afterlife, not so much in terms of guilt, of suicide being a taboo. But how a person suffering from such despair perhaps cannot derive any comfort or hope from such an idea.
To save myself repeating what I've said I've copied part of my response below.
Touching on your point that there is a need in man to have hope of an afterlife it's interesting to consider how people with suicidal feelings see this. Presumably the reason they are wanting to commit suicide is because they want whatever they are going through to end, they want to end themselves, to stop being, to stop feeling. And so I would presume that in the current state of mind (of a suicidal person) they cannot conceive of an afterlife, as in such a state they would effectively reach a sanctuary, they would be safe and removed from the situation that they are in. Wouldn't this knowledge this hope help to assuage any feelings of despair? Now there are varying degrees of this, for instance the reason for suicide, a terminally ill person may long for 'release' and thus relish the idea, comforted by the hope and promise of a better world beyond.
I do think however that there is a need in man to try and understand, to make sense of his life even when there is nothing to go on. I guess this is where religion stems from. As Chuck Palahniuk so aptly puts it, "What you don't understand you can make mean anything." And in most cases we settle for what is emotionally satisfying, often discarding and twisting to truth to fit the models of the world that we have in our heads. This again is something I've set out to try and discuss in my work, the need to understand, to rationalise our lives. And in some ways the inherent failure in pursuing that goal as life will not easily submit itself to scrutiny, logic and rationality. |
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This is an interesting tangent to my main theme and I was just wanting to seek some feedback on the thoughts of others. I'd be particularly interested to hear the views of anyone who believes in the afterlife. Without wishing to be morbid I would be particularly interested to hear particularly from anyone who perhaps holds such a beleif who has found themselves in a period of despair.
Geoff
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I'm an atheist so possibly not the best qualified person to respond to you, but then again I have been suicidally depressed in the past so I do know a wee bit about it.
On the religion afterlife front I think the most important thing to remember is that all the monotheistic religions view suicide as a sin that will stop someone from ever entering any sort of heaven or positive afterlife. So any true believer will condemn themselves to hell by taking their own life. That's not to say religious people don't ever commit suicide but I imagine that if someone has reached that bleak point they've probably given up entirely on the notion of any god or afterlife and their religion is dead to them.
Emma
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I have been intrigued by your post since I read it and have been thinking long and hard about the subject. I fall into both your categories as I have been seriously depressed at various times in my life and I also believe in an afterlife. I am absolutely not religious though as I hate the idea of organised religion - to my mind it only leads to fighting. I am more of a do as you would be done by person but I do belive we have a place to go when we die. On thinking this through it seems to stem from a need not to be separated from my loved ones - my husband more than anyone. The thought of not seeing him ever again is a thought I cannot comprehend and I have to believe that there is something more. I think I justify this in a scientific way as in "energy cannot be destroyed only moved or changed" and we are all energy so we have to go somewhere. I love everything about mediums and clairvoyants, that whole subject fascinates me and only compounds what I believe. However, taking on the point about being depressed, I have to admit during times of depression (and consulting any list of anti-depressants there aren't many I haven't been on!) the afterlife has never been a thought at all. As you previously mentioned there is no hope at all when in that mindset and the afterlife is a hope rather than a certainty. I lost 6 months of my life taking Seroxat and since then have tried to keep off the drugs, only occasionally secumbing - post-natal depression was the last time about 6 years ago. I have started to experience panic attacks again but I am hoping not to have to take anything because it dulls your senses. I try to use my writing as a way to overcome these feelings now.
In answer to your query though in my experience I do belive in afterlife whilst I am fine but that is out of necessity to preserve what I have and in the hope that it will not come to an end. While I am depressed I have no reason to preserve what I have and therefore no need to hope for an afterlife. In fact I have had no hope at all.
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I also meant to add I would only have thought of suicide as a way to get out of where I was, not to get into somewhere else.
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I do belive in afterlife whilst I am fine but that is out of necessity to preserve what I have and in the hope that it will not come to an end. While I am depressed I have no reason to preserve what I have and therefore no need to hope for an afterlife. |
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Wow! That just socked me between the eyes. That is so profound.
I'm not sure how much I can add to this discussion, as I have never come close to feeling suicidal. I do, however, believe very strongly in an afterlife – and a beforelife and a betweenlife. I believe that souls decide what kind of experience they want from each incarnation. I don’t mean that everything is set in stone, more a rough plan. In which case, suicide would be part of the plan. It may be some other soul’s mission to stop someone committing suicide. While we’re locked into this incarnation we have no way of knowing what our destiny is but I firmly believe that, after death – by whichever means – there is no judgement, no punishment, no condemnation. There is simply an assessment – what has been learned, has the goal been achieved – and then a period of rest before deciding on the next incarnation.
This all might sound like a cop-out to some people, but it’s my belief and I'm happy with it.
Dee
<Added>Ought to add, I have experienced periods of deep despair, but have never been tempted by suicide.
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Like Eve, I do not believe in religion or God, but I do believe in life after death, as I have had signs of it.
Where we go I cannot say, but I believe we are made up of energy, and that energy does not die.
Having worked with people who have contemplated and attempted suicide, not one of them thought about afterwards. The only thing on their minds was ending the sadness/lonliness/situation they were in a that moment. They did not contemplate anything after that. When someone is that depressed, they just want an end to their existance. They are not in the right frame of mind to then contemplate that they may exist in another realm after their death.
I think things are different for terminally ill people. They have time to get used to the fact that they are dying, and some do hope and believe that they will live on in another life. But, their state of mind is different to that of the suicidal person, whose mind is often in turmoil.
Katerina
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I believe in an afterlife, which is more like a hope but well, I'm not completely sure. You see, I died once. And I came back. And I was present and aware the entire time.
I overdosed you see, about a decade ago, and I found myself in a coridoor of golden, rippling light, looking down at my body on the bed. Yeah yeah, I know it sounds whack, but there it is. I was strongly aware that I had a choice, and that to depart this 'plane' at that time would have left a lot of unfinished business.
I was raised to believe in reincarnation, as based on karma, and I guess I still hold to that. I'll accept that my vision may just have been the last vestiges of an oxygen starved, drug addled brain, but that still doesn't quite fit the bill for what it was.
Either way, I will live my life believing in an afterlife, and with a regard to karma. It won't hurt, and if I'm wrong, it isn't like I'll be around to complain is it?
JB
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Wow JB, that's an amazing story.
My grandad was very spiritual, and we used to talk about death a lot, He told me that when he died, he'd let me know he was around, by moving my furniture or something.
Well, about 6 months after he died, I, my mum, and my uncle started getting some very bizarre happenings in our homes. TV switching on and off, clocks stopping, smoke alarms going off for no reason, cutlery mysteriously disappearing and lots of other things.
Katerina
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From the discussions that I have and the literature that I read. It seems that we have developed the idea of an afterlife as a kind of coping mechanism.
It's very interesting to hear both Katerina and Eve describe what I come across so often in texts and conversation. States of depression do not lend themselves well to the notion of an afterlife, and as said, people in such states are just wishing to end it all.
I think the need to hope for some form of existence once we die is a way of allowing ourselves to make sense of a world that all too often does not make sense.
In conversations I have with people who would call themselves devoutly religious, I get all kinds of reactions to the questioning of an afterlife. My colleague, for instance, simply cannot comprehend there not being an afterlife. In fact he can't even get his head around me not holding this belief and is as he puts "amazed" that I can carry on with my life thinking that nothing comes after death. For him it would be soul shattering to think that once he was dead that would be the end. Other colleagues say pretty much the same thing. In one instance another colleague stated simply that it would be against god and everything he teaches to even try and imagine that there is nothing after.
I think what it boils down to in the end is that as predictive curious beings we often try to make sense of our world in the best way that we can. In fact our brain is actually geared to do this, we look for patterns in everyday life, that is the most fundamental attribute to learning and thus intelligence; the ability to spot patterns. Our brains are so geared up for this that we often find patterns where they don't exist, the face of Elvis in a crisp, the shape of animals in clouds etc.
A world that is cold and inert, that is uncaring, that does not hold any meaning or purpose is often something that does not fit the model that we have in our heads. That when we die we simply cease to exist is something we cannot comprehend. For what does it mean to not exist? How can I know and think and feel and be and then not? So we formulate an idea of the world that allows us to continue even when I bodies do not.
I've read some studies on the subject and there was an interesting article in NewScientist back in 2004 which discussed some of the work currently being done in the field. It seems that we tend to do two things when the issue of death is raised, the first is active suppression of the idea and the second is constructing a model that helps to boost our self esteem.
I've just had a gander at the NS site and managed to track the article down if anyone is interested in reading it.
Geoff
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I think people who hold to that view (and I mean this with the greatest respect) and completely and utterly blind to the world and the universe around them. I apologise if that sounds a bit strong, but people who go through life in a mind-mind-mind kind of way, seem to miss out on a whole plethora of sensations and experiences, because they are literally the ostrich with their head in the sand.
Does one need proof of God? Does one need a torch to see the sun?
The lack of spiritualist belief in society has hardly helped or advanced the human race beyond a very base, materialistic view - a get now, pay never mentality, that is slowly being proved, by the very world itself, to be utterly incorrect. That is because, on the whole, humankind is utterly incorrect about the world and the universe, thinking they can boil it down to a series of codes and building blocks and chemical reactions, but never quite grasping the miracle.
Right or wrong is not the point. Using your imagination is. Living out your dreams without fear is. Exploring the macro and microcosm, not with digital lasers and analytical science, but with you heart and yes, your soul.
The simple truth is that nobody knows. That's right, you don't know for sure and neither do I - so why pretend to? To rule anything out in this exceptional, wonderful, frightening place, is the very antithesis of the scientific/psychological approach these naysayers propose.
JB
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Wax,
I think it's a far greater miracle that we're here by chance than that some beard-in-the-sky waved his hand and whoosh we appeared.
I think there's more wonder to be had in a Godless universe, there's more to marvel at and more to appreciate. I don't think it cultivates a have now pay never attitude either. If everyone thought this was the only life we'll ever have shouldn't that motivate us to make this world a paradise as it's the only one we'll ever experience?
I see the rise of religion in places like Africa as shocking and appalling. It encourages people to put up with all the suffering and shit they're going through right now because it'll all turn out okay after they've died.
I don't know if you saw the Doomsday Code show that Tony Robinson did on Saturday. He showed in that how many influential religious americans are actually blocking legislation that would protect the environment etc because they believe the end is coming soon anyway.
Science doesn't claim to have all the answers, nor does it say "this is absolute fact". It constantly strives to update itself, it's open to correction when the compelling contrary evidence presents itself, it's rigorous and ever changing.
There is more in this life and this universe than I or anyone else will ever understand but I will make my assessments based on the best possible evidence and not on "faith". For those mysteries I don't have any answers to I'll simply say I don't know. I won't except an answer out of a non-evidence based book because it's really no answer at all.
I think it would be amazingly comforting to have faith, to believe in an afterlife, to think that my existence will ultimately stretch beyond this life. It would give me some sense of importance but it doesn't mean I would be right.
“The fact that a believer is happier than a skeptic is no more to the point than the fact than a drunken man is happier than a sober one” - George Bernard Shaw
"If it’s true that it [No God or afterlife] causes people to feel despair, that’s tough. It’s still the truth. The universe doesn’t owe us condolence or consolation; it doesn’t owe us a nice warm feeling inside. If it’s true, it’s true, and you'd better live with it." - Richard Dawkins
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Well, I accept that we're all different. Believe what you need to get you through, but personally, when I see the world and how everything depends on everything else to such a fine degree, I find it difficult to call it a happy 'coincidence'.
JB
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I have to agree with Emma on this one.
When I originally posted this thread I was looking at the issue of the afterlife as a comforting mechanism but at the very core of the issue lies the subject of beliefs. For you cannot have one without the other.
As Emma states there is more to the universe than anyone will ever likely know but there is absolutely no reason to attribute any of it at all to any kind of supernatural being.
One interesting fact that came out of my recent research into this area is that people often seek out those who hold similar beliefs to their own (I know, a kind of no shit Sherlock conclusion) but what we also do is look less favourably on people who do not share the same beliefs. If someone builds a picture of the world around the idea that there is an afterlife then they don't want to hear anything to the contrary. Indeed they look for evidence that seems to support their ideas. It could be argued that this is also the stance taken by scientists, the crucial difference however, given proof that there assertion is wrong scientists will change their position. This is not the case with religions and other beliefs, no amount of evidence and proof with ever sway a creationist from their belief in creationism.
This all comes back to my original argument concerning the needs of man. What many of us 'need' is not necessarily the truth, not reality served up on a plate but something that is emotionally satisfying, something that allows us to make sense of the world.
Another interesting point from all this is how people pick and choose their beliefs. Today there are thousands of offshoots of Christianity, Islam, Buddhism etc because people pick and choose their beliefs. What I have noticed though is that people have also started to incorporate other ideas including science to try and justify their beliefs. Now not wishing to offend anyone here (though it's impossible to discuss this topic and not) a number of people made mention of the fact that they rationalise the world and an afterlife because energy cannot destroyed only changed from one form to another. This is actually a derivation of the first law of thermodynamics. Nothing in the realms of thermodynamics deal with any issues of spirituality and nor should it, yet people use such information to bolster their own view of the world, to pick and mix as it were.
Tasking this issue further I find that many beliefs stem from a lack of understanding. Now again many people take offence when they are told they don't understand something but that is not what I intend here. Waxy you yourself state that you find it hard to comprehend how everything boils down to being a "happy coincidence". I believe that you stated this in the same way that most people refuse to believe in evolution because they falsely believe that evolution is all some trick of chance. It's not evolution follows a process, indeed evolution is a process albeit it one with infinitesimal stages.
In greater scheme of things there is no real coincidence. For instance life exists on earth because here water is found in such abundance in its liquid state. Life cannot exist without water which is necessary for all biological processes.
The water exists in its liquid state because we are just the right distance from the sun (not too close not too far)for the solar energy to maintain the liquid state. The planet is at the right distance because of the mass of the earth and the gravitational effect exerted upon it by the sun. So on and so forth. All of this can be carried on ad infinitum and none of it is really based on what you would truly believe to be a coincidence.
I guess this largely all boils down to the anthropic principle and how the universe seems to particularly suitable for the emergence of life. But if it wasn't then we wouldn't be here to question the whole notion would we? But just because we are here does that mean that someone or something put us here?
At the moment this is where we really reach the limit of our understanding but at no point do I see the need to invoke the need for an external guiding agency.
Geoff
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These are fascinating points Geoff, and by no means think I am blinkered to not seeing and exploring other points of view. I also wanted to state for the record, that by 'spiritual' I do not mean religion, or holding to any established religious belief. I guess I'd describe myself as a passive aggressive agnostic, if I really had to, but I think you're right, there is no need for an external body to guide what people choose to put their faith in, and when there is, it generally leads to problems.
I just don't like to rule anything out. I also like to believe that the universe rearranges itself to accomodate anyone's version of reality, and as a famous philosopher once wrote, 'as a man (person) sees, so he (or she) is.'
The troubles arise when people begin to tell others that they are wrong. Undermining what somebody else puts their faith in is the root cause of a lot of prejudice, and I am thankfully not one of those.
JB
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Jb,
Another anon philosopher said -
The seer must learn to see with more than the external eye,
for there is much that may be missed.
Without the heart, the eye is as dumb crystal.
When the inner eye is open,
and the heart is still, light abundant surrounds and fills all things.
Katerina
PS. I do like these little sayings.
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Hey that's good. Yes, a lot of these sayings are very spot on, aren't they. Just don't get me started on bloody Bernard Shaw.
JB
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